Must we always be so hard on ourselves? Must we punish ourselves for not doing better, being better, eating better, looking better, thinking better, speaking better, dressing better, knowing better ALL the time? Far too many of us do that. We are super hard on ourselves for not getting it “right” the first time. We punish ourselves for making a mistake, saying the wrong thing or reacting instead of responding.
Let yourself off the hook dolls – we are human, not perfect. I placed myself in a box for more than half my life believing I needed to get it right all the time. I thought I had to actually be perfect before anything good happened in my life. I kept myself in this tightly wrapped box of destruction because that’s all this idea of “perfectionism” is. You are going to make mistakes. You are going to have to in order to learn anything. They can always be forgiven because you get the choice to forgive yourself each time. We aren’t meant to nor are we ever going to figure it all out. Even as a life coach I don’t have it all figured out – I’m just aware enough to accept this is a journey with no destination and part of the journey is having fun while you get a little dirty in the process.
That means lighten up. That means let it go. That means chill out! You’re going to say the wrong thing sometimes – but trust me when I say that it’s NEVER the wrong thing. You can’t f&ck this up. Part of doing it one way and realizing you don’t like how it felt or what unfolded is realizing you have a choice to do it a different way the next time. You can always choose again. It’s all a choice. I don’t always say the “right” things but I trust this process enough to know what I am saying in that moment is exactly the thing that needed to be said in that moment. Either way I will learn something from it. So remove the labels, lighten your load and realize imperfect IS perfect, mistakes ARE necessary and everything is ALWAYS as it should be! Today’s Daily Affirmation is: