Stop avoiding your humanness

2018-03-26T17:11:57+00:00 March 26th, 2018|Radical Shifts|

There is a common misconception in spirituality that people have about feelings. They think you should avoid all the negative ones, which couldn't be further from the truth. What you want to do is love and accept yourself no matter what you are feeling because spirituality doesn't mean you try not to be human. Spirituality [...]

No one can make you happy but you

2018-03-12T14:47:09+00:00 March 12th, 2018|Radical Shifts|

If you need the things around you to change in order to feel good, then you are living conditionally. Another way to put that is that you are codependent. A lot of people believe codependency only happens in unhealthy relationships with other human beings. The reality is that your relationship to ANYTHING outside of you [...]

Confessions of a people pleaser

2018-02-25T15:48:31+00:00 February 25th, 2018|Radical Shifts|

Being used feels like being violated. It feels like someone forcing themselves through your front door while you're not actually inviting them in but rather standing in the doorway with body language that clearly suggests to back away. I was used for 33 years. It took me 33 years to understand why. It took me [...]

The one emotional mistake most humans make

2018-02-02T16:46:11+00:00 February 2nd, 2018|Radical Shifts|

the one emotional mistake most humans make As humans we are pre-programmed to look around us and react. From day 1 of our human experience, we popped out of a womb, saw some human heads and bawled our fucking eyes out. And if you didn't, I honor you! But in this life experience we are [...]

The processes won’t work if you miss this step

2018-01-23T13:35:47+00:00 January 23rd, 2018|Radical Shifts|

the processes won't work if you miss this step Loving yourself is not such a foreign concept these days. Every which way you turn there's someone teaching or preaching about self-love. Although many are hearing it and trying it but don't feel or see it working for them. A lot of individuals are similar to [...]

Say no to the spiritual rat race

2018-01-16T16:04:41+00:00 January 16th, 2018|Radical Shifts|

say no to the spiritual rat race For many individuals, spirituality is a way of bettering themselves. But for many more, the intention of 'bettering one-self' becomes an addiction. And just like any addiction, when living it, you often become immune to it. It's difficult for you to see while in it, but take one [...]

How to spot manipulation in a relationship

2018-01-16T14:40:18+00:00 September 28th, 2016|Radical Shifts|

how to spot manipulation in a relationship People who are manipulative will blame you for their actions. They will hold you accountable for how THEY feel. Manipulation is a way for individuals spiritually wanting (choosing) to stay stuck in their wounds, to feel better. They use you as a scapegoat for their pain. I am [...]

The Easiest Way To Stop Repeating That Pattern Is

2017-06-08T15:51:09+00:00 July 22nd, 2016|Radical Shifts|

the easiest way to stop repeating that pattern is... Make a new one. Breaking patterns is hard but forming new ones makes it easy. See I recently had surgery and because of the medicine they had me on I stopped drinking coffee every morning. Eliminating coffee would have probably been much more difficult had I not [...]