All the love you need is within yourself. Far too often we believe we need to seek love out in another person. We think there is that 1 person out there in the world meant to fulfill us. I, too, used to believe this. I used to believe that my love came from “out there”. That is was someone else’s job to fill me up and make me feel wanted, needed, desired – the whole nine yards.
FALSE! A Course in Miracles states, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Our love isn’t reliant on another human being, and when it is, we have latched on to them out of fear of looking within. We have placed them in the position to fail no matter what because nothing they do will heal that fear that we’re trying to cover and mask. This is what the Course refers to as a special love relationship. It states, “The special love relationship is not perceived as a value in itself, but as a place of safety from which hatred is split off and kept apart.” That “hatred” the Course refers to is the one we have for a part of ourselves we don’t want to look at. For me for a very long time that was the fear of not being enough. Not being good enough and wanting someone to show that I was.
But that recognition of being enough had to come from within myself. Being that we are already whole, I was lacking nothing – it was merely my perception of myself that had me believing the lie that I was lacking something that someone else would provide me. The moment I started providing myself with the love I was constantly searching for “out there”, was the moment individuals showed up in my life reflecting back to me that same love I was showing myself. That devoted, unwavering, compassionate, truthful love that I committed to giving to me, was now overflowing in me and all around me. And so then you enter into a relationship as a whole individual not seeking anything other than to SHARE and REFLECT the love you have for yourself with the other person. The shifts start within dolls! It is you who makes the change. It is YOU who decides to love you first and in turn all the world reflects that same love back to you. If the love you are receiving is “not enough”….then it is you who holds the power to radically shift it by looking within yourself and finding the place where you are holding back what you need. It doesn’t exist in another person, it exists in you. What you seek, you will find and so do not fear the opportunity to fill a part of yourself with more love to wipe out that hidden fear for good. You will see that with that one choice your entire world will change. Today’s Daily Affirmation is: